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    I think I am heading for a divorce… I don’t see any other way. Before I start the ball rolling, is there any advice anyone can give me?

    I want out, but not at the cost of making huge mistakes. I don’t want to ruin my future with what’s happening now.

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    You need to be made aware of all the consequences or scenarios if you do go through with it. You have to weigh everything. You need to look at the big picture before proceeding with a divorce.

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    You need to be open to some suggestions. I know you want this to end and you want to move on. Don’t be too quick to act because this is a highly emotional and draining issue.

    I think you should at least talk to a marriage counsellor first. Sometimes, couples need help. I think too many people get divorced without taking this step. Let a professional help. Perhaps the marriage can be salvaged.

    You don’t need to go with your spouse, believe it or not. Don’t be too quick to throw in the towel.

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    If you have more or less made up your mind, I think the first thing you should do is get yourself a good lawyer, and I mean good lawyer. It will be absolutely devastating to go through all of this and end up losing even more. I suggest you take your time in finding the right lawyer.

    Just remember that at this point in time, you are not going forward with anything. You can get all the right information first from the lawyer. I would recommend someone like Matrimonial Home and see where you stand. When it comes to family law, they have vast experience. Speak to them or find a good lawyer on your own before doing anything else.

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    I agree. Speak to a lawyer first. You know how some people just move out when they can’t take it anymore? This may seem like the right thing to do. On some occasions, it probably is.

    For example, if the woman is constantly being physically abused, then I think she has to get out of that situation to remain safe. If she has children, then she should protect them too.

    However, moving out is not always the answer. Sometimes, when you move out, you may eventually lose your matrimonial home. Worse yet, you could lose the custody of your child or children. Only when the court decides to divide the property can you return home. As you probably know, this is a really long process. To know what you have to do and not make costly errors, talk to the lawyer.

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    Before you jump in with divorce proceedings, you should safeguard your assets. Any joint credit card accounts need to closed, or at least freeze them. This will help to protect your credit rating. Try to block other joint accounts.

    Instead, open a new account in your name. Remember, this is important because you will have to start all over again. The last thing you want is to have bad credit needlessly.